Parent-child communication in the epidemic

The online course "Parent-Child Communication During the Epidemic" held by the Kok Sing Counselling Center on June XNUMX was lectured by the Kok Sing trainee counselor Lynn Tan and attracted XNUMX parents to learn how to improve communication skills.

At the beginning of the lecture, parents learned that the brains of teenagers are still in the process of being formed. This is what they use to make decisions and think about logic. Parents have a great influence and they need to guide teenagers to make wise life decisions.

The speaker also mentioned four parental models: irrespective, permissive, authoritarian, and authoritative. The fourth method can cultivate youth’s sense of responsibility and enhance their self-worth, bringing out the Bible’s teaching of the heavenly Father’s loving nature (Nissi Mi 9:17, Hebrews 12:6).The God of the Bible is full of love and kindness, and is not easy to get angry. Parents can imitate God the Father and treat their young children with patience, peace and respect. Therefore, children can treat their parents and other people in the same way.

Here are three simple ways that parents can show respect for teenagers:

1 Respectfully speak in tone and volume-although you are angry, try to express it in a calm tone (when I ask you to do your homework and you don't listen, I feel very disappointed).This way of communicating peacefully and expressing their emotions not only allows young people to learn the same way, but also avoids quarrels..

2 Respect children’s space-before entering the room of teenagers, ask for their consent (may I come in? I think you are very busy now, can I come in and talk with you in an hour?) When you do this, the teenagers will I feel respected, and therefore treat my parents in the same respect.

3 Don't nag-constant reminders and repetitions will make each other feel disrespected.You can express your requested behavior first, remind no more than three times, let the teenager bear the consequences of disobedience, and encourage the teenager to cooperate with their parents (15 minutes before dinner, if you do not come, you will be at your own risk).

The lecture also mentioned some common problems in communication between parents and young children, such as power struggles and disputes.As young people grow up, parents must set an example to guide young people to learn how to solve problems and communicate with others. They can clearly express their emotions with respect, so that parents can positively influence their children.After the lecture, parents also actively participated in answering questions.Although this is an English lecture, the horns are specially added with Chinese subtitles and placedcchhouston.org "Webinars", easy to search.